Reader's Response to My Favorite Fetishes II: BBW

I am frankly overwhelmed at the amount or responses I've gotten regarding my post on BBWs, and I'd like to thank everyone who took the time to write to me.  For the most part, it seems that my statements seem to echo a lot of your sentiments regarding a love of larger women.

I did receive one very interesting response from a redditor, I'll be referring to her as Mrs. L, regarding this issue, and (having secured her permission) I'd like to share it with all of you:

I have to say it...I am a "BBW" and really am bothered by being put into a "fetish" category. I get that face sitting, that thing where guys like to get body slammed (don't remember the name) are usually BBW-centric fetishes, but its hurtful and dehumanizing to me to be labeled as a walking talking fetish rather than a human being.

On a positive note, I really enjoyed the way you broke down the different categories so to speak. I found it really interesting!

Now, I have to say that this type of reaction was definitely a concern of mine while writing the original post.  I understand that there is often a negative social connotation surrounding the word fetish, and I also know that subjects like this can be very sensitive issues.  Having been on the receiving end of some less that pleasant comments regarding my own "deviations", I find that treating issues like this (and the people involved) respectfully is very important to me.  Here is a copy of my response (posted on reddit) to the above critique:

First and foremost, I'd like to apologize if my post made you feel dehumanized or hurt. That was never my intention. A majority of my writings tend to focus on various fetish aspects, but I never mean to imply that a person's feelings should be ignored. For me, fetishes are the most fun when they can be shared with someone you care for. The act of losing yourself in such raw sexual activity can only be truly achieved in an environment built around trust.
In regards to feeling like a walking fetish rather than a human being, that's a bit more difficult. I would be lying if I said that the first thoughts to fly through my mind upon encountering a BBW weren't graphically sexual in nature. It doesn't mean that I think of the woman as any less of a person, however. In my experience, it is entirely possible to be both a sex object and a person (I also personally love being a sex object, though, so I may be a bit biased).

Yes, there will always be people who will view you as nothing but a vehicle for their desires, but that's not exactly limited to BBWs. The important thing to realize is that there are just as many, if not more, who will be attracted to you for who you are as well as what you look like.

I hope this reply serves to undo any hurt the original post may have caused, or (as my rambling seems to be growing ever more incoherent as the minutes tick past) I hope it at least has not made things any worse.
Hopefully, you will give my writings another chance, and perhaps I can leave a better impression on you the next time. :)

Also, I'm glad you liked the breakdown. That was actually one of my favorite parts of the post to write.

Now, my reasons for sharing this with all of you are three-fold...

My Favorite Fetishes II: BBWs

First of all, I know I said that I'd talk more about hypnosis this time around.  I've gotten a couple of e-mails on this subject recently, though, and I thought it might be nice to talk about it.  The hypnosis talk is still coming, though, I promise!

Secondly, this post is going to contain pictures that might not appeal to everyone.  That's the nature of many fetishes, and that's okay.  I won't spend time apologizing for the post, however, as I'm a firm believer that, as long as all parties involved are consenting and of legal age, people shouldn't have to apologize for what turns them on.

Third, and finally, while I do have a great fondness for large women, I am by no means discounting women of other body types.  I am an unashamed lover of feminine beauty in all forms: short, tall, fat, thin, etc.  In fact, there are several instances where I am also attracted to the waifish look (such as my predilection towards slender trans-women, but that's another post entirely.)

Now, for those of you that are interested in the topic, and I know there are plenty of you out there, the real (plump and squishy) meat of the discussion is after the break.